May the Force Always Be with You  …  Age and the Workforce

In the cycle of life, we round the corner into the era of an “aging” workforce.  We have been here before, and we will return here, again and again.  This lifecycle affects companies, small and large, and employees at every level of their careers.  So, whatever role you play at whichever stage of your career, this is a history lesson for here and now.

Lesson 1:  People Retire, Talent Thrives
With experienced employees reaching retirement, companies lose rich resources from the day-to-day goings on.  Companies can still tap the talent.  Many retirees wish to spend time with colleagues and enjoy the stimulation of work.  Also, they have earned a balance that includes more leisure time.  So, consider the flexibility of consulting.  Retirees are the perfect pinch-hitters for projects that need extra person-power.  The pool of experience is a ready resource for varying demand.

And, if you are one of those entering retirement, and you wish to keep a toe in the workforce, offer your skills as a consultant.  For employees still circling the water cooler, keeping in touch with exiting colleagues is a great way to have a comrade to whom you can turn for advice.

Lesson 2: Build Bridges
Companies and individuals can benefit from mentorship bonds within the organization or within the community.  The mentor-mentee relationship promotes understanding, and leads to mutual investment in success.  Often, these relationships flourish beyond the work environment.  If your company doesn’t have a mentor program, reach out and set up your own network.  Select a teacher if you are just beginning, choose a protégé if you are more tenured.

When nearing retirement, thwart resentment toward career beginners, especially if nurturing hurt from falling short of personal goals.  Be mindful of your personal motivations.  Make peace with your self.  When one is okay with one’s self, there is no need to make another wrong.

Throughout a blossoming career, it is wise to learn from those who have blazed the path before, even while making your own mark.  Be respectful.  Open your mind to the possibility that, even though you may “know it all,” there are still some treasures to be found.  One gentleman posted this for all to learn:  Everyone has an Opinion; Judgment is from Experience.

Lesson 3:  Stay In Touch
No matter what stage in your career, it is vital to stay current with trends, innovations, and technology.  Embracing new ways of doing things keeps talent fresh.  Cross-pollinating industry ideas spawns inventiveness. When entering the workforce, while advancing in the workforce, and as one gets ready to depart the workforce, do not leave “learning” behind.

There are creative ways to accomplish this.  Companies can encourage learning in many ways, one of the most efficient being on-site seminars.  Employees can inspire educational programs by working with HR or launching “brown bag” lunch events.  Here is an opportunity to enlist the senior staff members to give presentations in order to share their expertise.  And, newbies can find presentation experience by researching and lecturing about a topic.  Sharpen the pencil, the wit, the mind and feed the soul of an ever wiser organization.

Lesson 4:  Work Today & Plan for Tomorrow
One of the most helpful benefits a company can offer in support of retirement is the 401k.  With or without matching funds, the 401k brings mindfulness to saving, and makes it easy.

If one is fortunate enough to have enlisted in a program early in one’s career, one will find a nice nest egg to support their dreams after the “9 to 5” gig.  And, there is a world of opportunity for both work and play in the after-retirement-life.

Lesson 5:  While Talent is Tops, Character Commands
At any age, kindness, wisdom, honesty, loyalty, perseverance combined with ability will be the meter of our life’s work.  As the world’s children learn the pillars of character at home and at school, adults should further develop and encourage mindfulness of virtue ~ especially as ethics are challenged in an increasingly competitive world.

Companies can encourage truthfulness, respect, fairness, caring, responsibility, citizenship, and other virtues through business practices, policy, and by annually rewarding such behavior and the person who personifies character through the course of business.  Employees can bring these qualities to every facet of their lives.  Let the best of you rule you.

Got questions?  Got comments?  Let me know. Live well and live in peace.

Tamara Parisio is a freelance writer and an entrepreneur.  With a blended perspective from Journalism, Advertising, Toys, Giftware, Entertainment, Real Estate, and Beauty, to family life and personal interests, Tamara reflects upon her experiences to provide hope-filled musings on beauty and wellness, business and living for people of all ages. With experience spanning multiple industries and over many decades, Tamara Parisio brings a seasoned eye and a fresh perspective to find the opportunity in every challenge. With acute clarity, Tamara hones a marketing message for impactful, compelling communication across channels. Tamara’s optimism delivers a can-do approach to meet or beat expectations.

“My goal is to be ICONIC in what I do so that I can invest and spend resources as I desire to enrich the world! And I intend to give fabulous gifts to family and friends, wrapped in particularly pretty packages! … What’s yours? #ScriptYourShift” — Tamara Parisio, Strategic Wordsmith & Creative Director

Tamara Parisio is a Scottsdale-based Strategic Wordsmith and Creative Director with Parisio & Co, LLC. For more information, visit TamaraParisio.comand


Girls Night Out

Gathering with girlfriends is a cornucopia of goodness.  Here are a couple gems from the treasure of last night’s soiree.

  • Where we met: Figlio’s.
  • What we drank: Michael David Chardonnay and Hahn Pinot Noir.
  • What we ate: Polenta Fries and Calamari followed by seafood dinner plates.
  • How we solved the world’s woes: Collaborative conversation. And hugs.

The topics we covered were as diverse as the days we each have experienced between our memory making moments when we cross paths. Having forged our friendships in college, celebrated careerImages and weddings and children and adventures, we raise our glasses with gratitude for the here and now. And salt.

Two salts we praised for flavor and health benefits were Celtic Coarse Light Gray Sea Salt and Himalayan Pink Sea Salt to add minerals, texture and a pinch of panache to the food we enjoy. Salt Works offers a nice guide to artisan salts and offers a selection online. Or check out the food section at T J Maxx for a deal that makes trying something new so much easier.

Onward, we tackled the almighty question of “what do I want to be when I grow up.” For our selves. For our children. For those we advise. A wonderful resource employed by a few became the curio for us all. Aptitude testing is a great adventure that has helped shaped the career paths for our children (and it is never to late to give it a go). And we enjoy the conversation about our strengths, weakness, hopes and dreams.

So the evening wraps up with hugs and promises to keep in touch until we gather again. Girl friends. Women who are changing the world.


Four Questions for Creatives • Danielle LaPorte

The story of Freddy & the iPhone — and 4 questions for Creatives • Danielle LaPorte: white hot truth + sermons on life.

1. What have you got in your archive that can be turned into art today?

2. Analyze it — what interested you in your past?

3. Your life is content — what do you do well everyday that you might be taking for granted?

4. How can you bring your personal story into your work?

What comes naturally to you is your greatest distinguisher.

7 Rules for a Millionaire Mindset

Found this article to be of interest. First the mindset, then the million. Go get ’em!

“Successful people instinctively follow their gut feelings. Unsuccessful people have let others convince them that they cannot trust themselves.”

1) Know what you want. You must have a targeted goal. Clear and conceivable. One that you could tell someone, and they would be able to follow a route to it.

2) Focus on what you want. Imagine what your life will be like to have had your dream. You keep doing this until you have had it and seen it in so much detail that it becomes something that is now likely to happen. Then  focus on possible routes for getting there. Provide your mind with stepping stones – lots of them – at each step, starting from where you are now.

3) Be grateful for achieving your dream. Trust your feelings of completion and feel thankful for living your dream (as if it is already realized).

4) Wait to be compelled to Act. All creation is done in your mind first. Action steps are about bringing into reality that which you have already have in your mind. Once the dream has been fully designed so that you can see it in your life in every detail then it is time to bring it into reality. And you will know this because the feeling will magically propel you forward.

5) Focus on the step you are on.  You must focus on what you are doing 100% and do it to the very best of your ability. Love where you are now in your life.

6) Listen to your Hunches. These are messages from your subconscious, giving you answers and ideas for progress.

7) Go deeper into your design. Between stages and on your journey, relax during rest stops and daydream further into your vision. Experience your design in greater detail.

These are the basic steps to cultivating and creating the millionaire mindset — the mindset where you just know you will do it.

via How To Become Rich.

Three Questions About Change

In a recent chat about change, these questions were posed. You might enjoy the answers; and please add comments with yours!

Why do people want to change? People will change when “the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of evolving.” Change is also spurred by a longing for something “more” or “different.” One might see another option – in a book, a film, in a neighbor, at school, in a magazine that inspires a new experience. What moves you?

Why do people stay stuck (and not complete the change / fulfill the dream)? Often, it is tough to change the “habits” that keep us stuck or create new “routines” that can help in the journey. The lack of a support system – friends/family/circle – can inhibit change. And, for some, lack of a vision for where to go leaves one without a target. How about you?

What has helped you or others accomplish goals or dreams? What helped you get unstuck if you were stuck? What helped you execute and accomplish it? Key is to envision and define a goal, decide upon it at the elimination of all other options. Finding a role model and emulating their success helps one envision the dream come true. It is always important to create or change habits to support the desired outcome. And, daydreaming about it to “flesh” it out helps one “realize” a goal and feel more aligned with it along the way.

For added inputs, visit this article about Goals, Strategies and Tactics. Enjoy your journey and a golden path!

Girls, Gals, — Grannies …

Through the decades, we wear many hats … sometimes through a day they can vary …

I am me. In me I see you. In you I see me…. did I mention that I have experience in copywriting, advertising, product management, marketing, landscaping, interior design, real estate, sales, viticulture, food service, and as a fitness trainer … mom to daughter and son, guru to my mom … and I love to cook, paint, run, draw, hike, write, read, and get lost in conversation about the most controversial but meaningful things (we can agree to disagree, but let’s attempt to find understanding).

As a girl, I dreamed of being a singer, songwriter and guitarist. I had hopes of a talk show, too. Then I considered fashion design, but I was afraid to follow it. Early in my career, I found success but not the support or network I needed to follow my passion. The path I followed was pedestrian, my journey through was outside-the-box. I did “their things” in “my way.”

Stop. I am at a crossroads. There is still an inner voice calling me. Yet, I cannot hear her. Or perhaps I don’t understand. Do you have that voice, that feeling of something left undone? Are you confused by it? I am. And I shall meditate, contemplate, procrastinate until clarity comes. Then I can dance again …

This is a ramble but it is important. The fiber that weaves feminine DNA comes through me and you, connecting us on some level. And if we can recognize that connection, we all grow and we each grow. So reach for it. Look for that which unites us through time and space. Find yourself there. We each have a place.

Me, I feel fragmented. Splintered. Yet whole. Scattered, perhaps. That must be from reaching so far through time. But right here right now, I feel lost among you, lost among me. What is our collective dream? I shall peel back the onionskin to find the core. And through my tears I will see which hat to don next, and which to offer to you.

Feeling Matters When You Envision

As a woman morphs from one decade to another, her dreams also evolve. Sometimes goals are met and then we move on. Other times we need to just move on.

Creating a vision board helps focus efforts and define goals. With pictures, words, and symbols, one can imagine that which she wishes to experience. Often the process supports attainment. Sometimes the goals remain unreached.

When we let go of a dream, it can leave us feeling empty and lost, you know – ineffective. To get through disappointment or perhaps avoid it altogether, rather than focusing on a particular outcome, hold the “feeling” you’d like to have –that is what you are chasing.

It matters that I feel like I matter–that I make a difference. I’d like to feel a sense of accomplishment, triumph. This can come from work, home, running a race, or a multitude of goals that can be chased in an effort to capture and re-capture the feeling.

Along the journey, let me feel love. Ah, love. It can be found most readily by giving it to your self and to others. And, when someone lovingly touches your heart, be open to it. Love emerges in the appreciation you feel for what you do, who you meet, where you go.

The desire to feel good is a shared urge across the decades. Feelings can help define goals. For help in your future planning, consider signing on for The Desire Map.

While feelings can be fleeting, the goals or mode of achieving feelings are many. Enrich your life by feeling your way through. Follow your heart.

Time Travel

Setting goals can be daunting. Finding direction sometimes leaves me lost. Still, I must look to myself for my answers. And if I find a plan that works, I must share it in the hopes it will help you, too. So, here’s one to ponder.

If you could go through time and ask your self – many years in the future – a question, what would it be? Hmmm, I think mine would be “what should I start doing today to be on the ‘happy dance’ track?” She would know regrets. From her perch, could see opportunities I might overlook. In this interaction, I will see the me I wish to be and she will be my guide to getting there.

I could ask her about my career, my relationships, my spiritual self, my sense of style, even…. So imagine having this conversation. Listen to the advice from the future you – the you you aim to be.

Next, look back to your self, many years ago. Ask her what she needs. Send her some encouragement. Ask her what she thinks (and hear her praise for how well you handled things with the knowledge you had at the time). Find out what she would avoid going forward.

Come back to now. Look yourself in the mirror. Embrace today. It is the only one you have. Tomorrow you will morph one day closer into the you you aim to be.


Death & Taxes

As you step through each day in this experience called life, you will encounter many events. In addition to death and taxes, you will surely endure guilt, fear, and failure during your life. But, the good news is that you will also find adventure, earnings, innocence, audacity, and attainment in the mix. Which is more prevalent? It’s a matter of perspective.

That 90/10 rule is in effect where you are in control of 90% of what happens to you based on how you respond to life and the 10% of it that just happens – you will never be able to affect. Ultimately we all wish to feel good, yeah? What are the specific good feelings you wish to experience? List your yearnings and let those become your guide.

A wish to feel affluent might result in giving money to a homeless woman, or donating time for a cause. The desire to feel attractive might be filled by primping and then greeting others with an authentic smile. A craving for connection might lead you to lunch with new friends. And thankfulness in these moments reinforces the universe to “bring it on.” (Crave a plan, check out The Desire Map for inspiration and a program to help you chart out yours.)

So even if that raise didn’t come through, be thankful that you’re paying taxes (and thus, earning an income). Every morning when you wake, do so with joy that you have time to spend. When you meet with failure, ask “what is my lesson here?” Throw yourself a lifeline. And feel your life unfold just as you need.

A dear woman with whom I worked would respond to “how’s your day?” with “woke up, no box, all good!”

Tap Into the Power of Thanks

Six Effective (and Affordable) Ways to Improve Morale, Motivation, and the Bottom Line ~ via WE magazine for women.

Here is my takeaway:

  1. Always say “Thank You”
  2. Be Open to Constructive Criticism
  3. Care Enough to Help Others or Improve Yourself
  4. Graciously Accept Thanks
  5. Give Consistent Heartfelt Recognition
  6. Acknowledge Positive Performance

At the very least, consider a heartfelt handwritten note. It makes quite an impression. Even though the paper is soon recycled, the sentiment lives on. This is wonderful professionally, and personally, too. Thanks for your attention.